I read a blog today that used the phrase "so retarded," and I wanted to scream. Here was a 30-something mother with years of school beyond college who couldn't think of a different word than one that outwardly slams a group of people by using their disability to name-call. Didn't she simply mean stupid? Would she call my son, who is mentally retarded, stupid? No. First of all because he isn't stupid, and second of all because that would be mean and immature. And because she has a vast vocbulary and a thesarus at her fingertips, she should be able to think of some other way of expressing her opinion.
I know that some of my friends use this word frequently, and I have been a big chicken and not said anything, because I don't want them to feel bad. And I still don't. Because people don't mean any harm, not usually anyway. So I'm sorry for bringing this up on my blog for all to read. But it's supposed to be about my life, (right?), and the roller coaster of emotions that being a mom brings to the table. So if "retarded" is part of your vocab, there is no need to apologize. Just please, please stop using that word.